The Therapy Journal
This is where psychotherapy steps out of the session and into conversation. From our defences that shape our daily lives to the emotions that drive our choices, these pieces explore the human mind through a psychodynamic lens.
Whether clinical or cultural, every post asks the same question:
What happens when we stop avoiding our feelings?
Where therapy meets everyday life
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The Psychology of the Inner Critic: How the Voice Inside You Took Power
The inner critic often feels like a personal truth, but it usually develops as a way of managing anxiety and emotional risk. This article explores how self-critical patterns form, why they persist, and how therapy helps people change their relationship with that internal voice rather than simply trying to silence it.
Why We Repeat What Hurts Us: The Pull of Familiar Pain
Many people notice the same emotional patterns repeating across relationships and life decisions. This article looks at how repetition develops as a protective strategy, why familiar experiences can feel safer than change, and how therapy helps people notice the cycle in real time and create space for different choices.
The Therapy FAD? Rethinking our Feelings, Anxiety and Defences Across Modalities
Most struggles follow a simple human sequence: feelings stir anxiety, and anxiety brings defences online. This post reframes that pattern as survival instead of pathology, and explores how therapy becomes transformative when anxiety is regulated and defences are read as signals, instead of obstacles.
From Pain to Possibility: What The Downward Spiral Shows About Being Human
Music can sometimes express emotional experience more clearly than explanation. Using The Downward Spiral as a lens, this article explores themes of shame, emotional avoidance, and disconnection, and how therapy helps people recognise similar patterns in themselves and develop a steadier relationship with difficult feelings.
Why Therapy? The Question People Rarely Ask
Many people start therapy focused on symptoms, but lasting change often involves something deeper: the ability to stay present when emotions feel difficult. This article explores how therapy builds emotional capacity, helping patterns soften over time and allowing people to respond with more flexibility rather than automatic reactions.
Two Types of Emotional Avoidance in Relationships and Why It Hurts
Emotional avoidance often shows up as distance, shutdown, or control inside relationships. This article explains two common patterns of avoidance and how they develop as ways of managing anxiety. It also explores how therapy helps people notice these responses in real time and build emotional capacity for safer, more stable connections.
The Power of Coming Back: Lewis Capaldi, Vulnerability, and the Quiet Strength of Resilience
Using Lewis Capaldi’s return to the stage as a reflection point, this post explores why the same qualities that heal us in therapy, connection, patience, and self-belief also sustain us in life. Resilience grows quietly, through honesty, support, and the courage to keep showing up.
Your Defence Mechanisms: A Self Discovery Quiz
When we think about defence mechanisms, we may often imagine walls or barriers, but they’re actually more like an emotional immune system. This quiz explores how everyday habits like humour, busyness, or people-pleasing are clever ways the mind protects us from difficult feelings, and why understanding them with curiosity (rather than judgement) can be the start of real change.