The Therapy Journal
This is where psychotherapy steps out of the session and into conversation. From our defences that shape our daily lives to the emotions that drive our choices, these pieces explore the human mind through a psychodynamic lens.
Whether clinical or cultural, every post asks the same question: what happens when we stop avoiding our feelings?
Where therapy meets everyday life…
What My Vinyl Collection Taught Me About Memory, Regulation, and Meaning
Organising my vinyl collection by psychological function, rather than genre, unexpectedly mirrored key psychodynamic ideas about memory, regulation, and emotional capacity. This reflective post explores how experiences arrive, settle, carry meaning, and eventually become part of who we are.
Emotional Fragility and the Need for a Raft in Intensive Therapy
When therapy feels stuck, it’s rarely because anyone isn’t trying hard enough. More often, emotional intensity has moved faster than a person’s capacity to tolerate it. This post explores why depth without sufficient containment can increase anxiety rather than insight, and why building capacity first is what actually makes deep work possible.
What the Latest UK Therapy Data Really Tells Us: and What It Means If You’re Thinking About Therapy
Therapy has quietly become mainstream in the UK, with more than a third of adults having tried it, and most finding it helpful. But beneath anxiety and stress, loneliness is often the real driver. As therapy moves online and into everyday life, this piece explores why human connection still matters, how to choose support wisely, and what actually makes therapy work.
Four Thousand Hours: A Reflection on Depth, Distance, and the Digital Room
After thousands of hours of online psychodynamic work, one thing has become clear: deep emotional change doesn’t depend on setting, but on what two people can stay with together. This post explores how real transformation happens when courage meets containment, and why building the capacity to feel is what ultimately frees us from repeating the past.
The Therapist’s Silence: What It Really Means
Silence in therapy is often misunderstood as awkward or empty. This post explores why silence can be a courageous container, one that holds emotional avoidance long enough for something real to emerge, and why some of the deepest shifts in therapy happen when nothing is being said.