The Therapy Journal
This is where psychotherapy steps out of the session and into conversation. From our defences that shape our daily lives to the emotions that drive our choices, these pieces explore the human mind through a psychodynamic lens.
Whether clinical or cultural, every post asks the same question: what happens when we stop avoiding our feelings?
Where therapy meets everyday life…
Structural Thinking in Psychotherapy
Structural thinking in psychotherapy shifts attention away from content and toward process. By observing how feelings, anxiety, and defences operate in real time, therapy begins to support deeper change through increased capacity rather than insight alone.
Mentalisation and Emotional Fragility: Why Reflection Can Collapse Under Stress
Mentalisation helps us think about feelings and relationships, but this capacity can weaken when stress rises. This article explores emotional fragility, reflective collapse, and how therapy gradually helps emotional experience become more thinkable.
Why Repetition Happens: The Emotional States Behind Repeating Patterns
Repeating patterns often reflect earlier emotional states rather than simple habits. This article explores why repetition develops, how symbolic carriers recreate emotional experience, and how reflective capacity gradually allows those patterns to loosen.
State vs Symbol: Why Some Emotional Experiences Are Hard to Put Into Words
Some emotional experiences are felt long before they can be understood. This article explores the difference between emotional states and symbolic thinking, and how developing reflective capacity gradually allows those experiences to become recognisable and easier to think about.
Why Emotional Change Takes Time
Many people expect emotional change to happen quickly once they understand their patterns. In reality, emotional change usually develops gradually as people build the capacity to experience feelings, anxiety, and relationships differently.
Mentalisation and Fragility: Reflections from a Workshop
When working with emotional fragility, strengthening the capacity to think under pressure often comes before deep emotional work. Mentalisation, understanding behaviour in terms of thoughts and feelings, provides a stabilising foundation for therapy. When affect rises too quickly, reflection can narrow or collapse. Slowing the process and restoring shared thinking allows emotional work to unfold more safely.
Emotional Fragility and the Need for a Raft in Intensive Therapy
Written for therapists, this article explores emotional fragility in depth work and why building containment before intensity prevents collapse. A practical reflection on capacity, countertransference, and why slowing down often protects both therapist and client.
What Happens When You Finally Feel a Feeling You’ve Avoided?
Avoided emotions often feel intense when they first appear. This article explains why anxiety rises as feelings come closer to awareness, how emotional capacity develops in therapy, and why learning to stay present with emotion gradually reduces the need for avoidance.
What Therapists Feel But Rarely Say
Therapists do experience emotional responses during sessions, but those reactions are used carefully as part of the work. This article explains countertransference, why therapists rarely talk openly about their own feelings in sessions, and how emotional awareness helps guide the therapeutic process.