The Therapy Journal
This is where psychotherapy steps out of the session and into conversation. From our defences that shape our daily lives to the emotions that drive our choices, these pieces explore the human mind through a psychodynamic lens.Whether clinical or cultural, every post asks the same question: what happens when we stop avoiding our feelings?Where therapy meets everyday life…
What Therapists Feel But Rarely Say
Therapists don’t stop feeling; they learn how to use what they feel in service of the work. Beneath the calm exterior, we experience sadness, frustration, protectiveness, and even love. What matters isn’t suppressing these emotions but knowing how to hold them, translate them, and keep the client at the centre of the story.
The Therapist’s Silence: What It Really Means
A therapist's silence can feel uncomfortable, but it’s rarely empty. It’s a tool for reflection, containment, and growth. Silence invites awareness where words often defend, a quiet that allows feeling to emerge, safety to build, and the self to hear itself.
What Your Therapist Really Thinks About You
Your therapist isn’t judging you, they’re tracking you. They’re listening for the story beneath your story: the shame that hides in your silence, the fear behind your anger, the longing buried inside your defences. Therapists feel things too that’s called countertransference. It’s not gossip; it’s guidance. Their emotional responses help them understand what’s happening in you and between you.
They don’t see you as broken. They see someone brave enough to let another human witness what was once hidden.
When you wonder, “What must they think of me?”
The real answer is simple:
They think you’re worth the effort, every minute of it.